Sunday, February 12, 2006

Developing a funny-bone

Sometimes, things are said in jest. If overheard, the intent may be subject to some misinterpretation. Should one operate under the assumption that any given statement is serious? And should one who was privy to only a portion of half of a conversation make any assumptions whatsoever?

No. It is probably best not to assume.

It is also probably best not to think the worst of a person. Try to give people the benefit of the doubt whenever possible; it will make you happier in the long run.

Yawn.

Should I remove you from my life, my lists, my all? Or am I a bigger person than that?

Big? I feel small.

I am tired. Tired and bored. And disgruntled.

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9 comments:

Anonymous said...

And sometimes people make bad choices *chuckle* and some people can't take a joke.

Ah well, when people are being small 'tis best just to laugh.

Momma Trish said...

Yes. But the problem is that I actually feel small. Perhaps I should learn to laugh at me.

Anonymous said...

Oops, I just realized that although you know what I'm talking about, others might misinterpret my comment above.

So perhaps I should be less cryptic and say that the joke I was refering to was my speculation about who the anonymous poster on human_loser's blog was. But I have no idea whether that person was actually joking or not or who they are.

If some people did not find my speculation about it to be funny, oh well, it's no skin off my nose. People find humour in different places. Laughing at our own pain is sometimes the best medicine.

Momma Trish said...

Well, I think it's important to remember that you weren't speculating; you were making a joke. Okay, fine - the joke was perhaps a bad choice, but it was still just a joke. Not a big deal. I certainly caught it.

I have no idea who that poster was. But s/he made a post to the effect that it was all done in fun. I guess my sense of "ha ha" isn't developed enough to have caught on. I'm perhaps a bit too dense for my own good.

But I sure am glad that it was a joke. It's a relief to know that someone wasn't being serious about that stuff that was being posted!

Anonymous said...

Yes, perhaps making a joke about who it could be was a bad choice on my part, but since I obviously don't really think that it was that person it follows that obviously it was a joke.

I thought it was funny (bad choice or not).

"Angels can fly because they take themselves lightly."
-G.K.Chesterton

Momma Trish said...

Well, I'm very glad that the anonymous commenter on human_loser's blog was joking. I didn't get it, but I don't have to. That's the beauty of an inside joke!

I'm just relieved that it was meant in fun. I don't have a lot of patience for bullies, and it's good to not have to deal with one.

Momma Trish said...

Apparently, there has been some misunderstanding.

Just so we're clear this post reads "I feel small". I did not call anyone else small. Not even once. That isn't even implied. I was referring only to me and my feelings about myself at the moment this post was made. I did not delve into my rationale for those thoughts and feelings. A speculation has been provided; it is incorrect. The rationale behind my feelings is personal, and I do not choose to share it here. If I wanted to discuss it, I would.

Furthermore, I am not responsible for subsequent comments made to the post by other people. I cannot edit others' comments; I can only delete them if it is appropriate to do so.

There was an anonymous comment posted here. I deleted it, because it insulted me. It is my space. I can delete whatever I choose.

For the record, I did not make a tasteless joke. Nor did I condone said joke. I simply recognized that it was a joke. That is all. And if you will read my comments, I even acknowledge that it was a bad choice. Pretty clearly not something I condoned.

The irony of this situation has not escaped me. A nasty, hurtful, presumptuous comment has been posted to a thread about misunderstandings and how we should try to think the best of people. No one contacted me directly to discuss it. The anonymous poster was apparently too busy assuming the worst of me. Kind of sad, really.

My friends know how to reach me. I expect my friends to assume the best of me, and not to jump to any conclusions without talking to me about it first. If I have offended you, please feel free to phone me to discuss it. I would be happy to put your mind at ease.

Please do me the courtesy of taking this step before coming down on me in my own space.

Anonymous said...

I'm sorry if anything that I said caused someone to be hurtful to you. In the time I have known you, you have never been anything but kind and generous to all. You don't deserve to have your space invaded that way.

Momma Trish said...

Don't worry about it. I don't know why that person decided to attack me. And I certainly don't blame you for it. You're a good friend. Feel free to comment. I like seeing you here.

I am still somewhat disturbed by the notion of a troll on this page. Thing is, this is an unlisted and unsearchable blog. It's very much a private space. It takes a real effort for a person to get here. The only ways to find this space are either to be a friend of mine, or to be directed here by a friend of mine. And in either event, I find it disturbing that someone who I know, even indirectly, would put in the effort to come here and insult me. The thought that a person who is acquainted with me in some capacity would just assume the worst of me makes me kind of sad.

I don't understand it. But I will get over it. Whatever.